ACCIDENTAL INSPIRATION - a tribute to my mother
My mom went to
live with Jesus 17 and a half years ago.
August 31st would have been her 100th
birthday. There isn’t a day that goes by
that I don’t miss her. My mom was one of
a kind. I miss her daily presence in my
life. She was silly and fun. She was smart and wasn’t afraid to try something
new. She was witty and wise. And she was unflappable. I don’t think that I ever saw her lose her
cool and I witnessed scads of opportunities.
I never heard an unkind word fall off her tongue. Not that she was all sugar and honey but if
she said something negative, it was true and stated only as an observation, not
a judgement. She was a joiner and never
met a stranger. She had a great tribe of
girlfriends. She lived her best
life. And I wish I were more like her.
Recently, an
old school friend reached out to me on social media. She asked if I
remembered going to see a movie when we were kids. I did not.
She went on to tell me that she remembered it so well, mostly because of
how kind my mother was to her. As the
only child left at home for most of my growing years, I was usually allowed to
invite a friend to go along anywhere we went.
This particular friend was part of a large family and her mother and
younger sister suffered with health issues.
There were not a lot of special outings in her family. She was a few years ahead of me in school,
but we connected as children and were very close for my elementary and middle
school years.
She went on
to say that my mother inspired her. That
it was because of my mom that she realized that her life could be more than
what her family expected of her. She
said that my mom was strong and fair and that she looked up to her and thought
that she wanted to be like her. She shared
that there were many people who helped to shape her life but that my mom was
the female that really made her feel that she could be strong. My mother, totally unaware, inspired this
young girl to believe that she could do more and be more than what she had been
led to believe of herself.
Now, truth
be told, my mother was not all that happy with our friendship. She had heard that the girl’s older sister
had a bit of a reputation and my mother feared that she would not be a good
influence on me. To her credit, the only
time that I ever got in trouble with the law - now, don’t judge - I was with
this girl. Even so, my mom placed the responsibility of my actions solely on me. Side note: I was also with
the boy who would later become my husband but that’s a story for another
day. My mother was not the type who
would choose our friends. She let us
make our own choices and prayed quietly that those choices would turn out to be
good ones.
This got me
thinking. I am one hundred percent
certain that my mother had no idea of the impact that she made on this young
girl. I know that I didn’t have a
clue. I took my mother’s kindness,
matter of fact approach to everything and graciousness for granted. How
differently it could have gone if she had shown that she didn’t approve of our
friendship and how that rejection might have affected my friend.
I wondered
what, if any, impression have I made on the young girls who have come through
the door of my home over the years as friends of my daughters. As grown women, are they remembering my
kindness as something that they needed in their lives? Perhaps, one day when I’m gone, will one of
my daughters get a message from an old friend saying that I made a positive impact
on her life? I can only pray that any difference
that I made was for the better and that I kept any judgement to myself.
We need to
be constantly aware that how we walk out our faith is observed by many more
than we realize. Saying the right thing
isn’t enough. We must live out that
faith in our comings and goings. Romans 12:1 says, So here’s what I want you to do, God helping
you: Take your everyday, ordinary life-your sleeping, eating going to work, and
walking around life- and place it before God as an offering.
God calls us
to love one another as He loves us. Have
we been shining examples of God’s love? Romans
15:2 instructs us, Each of us needs to look after the good of the
people around us, asking ourselves, “how can I help?” It is a sobering disappointment to know that I
haven’t always been on my game. Am I
now? Certainly not every day. But God is gently nudging me to be more
intentional about mentoring young women.
So many need a positive influence in their lives that they do not or did
not have at home. Others have had
wonderful influences in their lives but can still benefit from a little wisdom
that is outside of the box from
Whether you
landed on this page by accident, were sent here by a friend or I begged you to
visit this site myself, I pray that you might feel that stirring in your soul,
a little nod from Jesus. “Yes, you.” You have God-given gifts to share with other
sisters and make no mistake about it, God is calling you to use those gifts to
further His kingdom. Take a few minutes
to pray about it. You might be surprised
by the direction in which way God is pointing you. If God can use my mother while she was
completely unaware, to significantly impact a young girl’s life, imagine what He
can do if we are intentional in our representation of Jesus to all His children.
This is so beautiful Tami. This is such a great tribute, to who mom was or should I say is. She still lives in me, not the same as you, it was a different time and circumstances, that I choose not to get into, but I am so much my mother and I see and feel her everyday.
ReplyDeleteYou my dear sister are exactly like mom, don't ever doubt that. I'm crying now, so I'm done. I'm trying hard to be a better me and that is, because the beauty in your soul, has stirred mine... I love you, moms # daughter. LBS